As leaders, highlighting a pattern for someone is so much more impactful than overreacting to a single mistake.
Sample language:
As I was reflecting on your growth and how to best support you, I wanted to talk about something I’ve noticed. When (situation), I notice that you’ve typically (behavior listed as actions only). For example (1) and (2). The impact that’s having is (outcome). What that makes me think is that (my assumption).
Is that true?
Is that something that you’ve noticed?
Discuss using example (3) and (4) if needed.
How do we move forward differently? What will that take from each of us?