To be clear, this is just one of many mistakes that I make repeatedly.
Setting the stage: I’ve consciously built a feedback friendly culture. I like for people to hear the truth real time and to provide the same in all directions. I believe that means leading with that behavior.
Here’s where I mess up on that. I see something and say something corrective about something small. And then their manager tells the person because they noticed it. And then someone else noticed it and says something to them. Because, yay real time feedback.
And then the receiver of that corrective info delivered repeatedly feels (understandably) something like:
(image: frustrated kid wants to throw a hairbrush)
And then I feel like…gah, I know better than this!
Now I try to think about who the messenger should be and set that expectation across those involved so that the information can be helpful rather than a pile on.
And no one has to throw anything.